Posted by Dr. A Non Mouse PhD. on January 18, 2010 at 11:05 [68.92.53.65]
I could spout of a few reasons but they would mostly be speculation.
Speculation:
DL-Daddies are a precarious lot, as a fair number of AB girls who waddle around aren't into the sexual side of play, there arises a conflict. As DL-Daddies have a sexual component with the community (Diaper Fetishism), AB girls often do not.
Another reason could be due to what cultural sociologists would refer to as a "Distinction of Taste". As humans we retain the nature of the numerous subtle differences in regards to our own habits, and desires. This means in our little community that the blanket terms of "AB Girl" "Little Girl" "Daddy" and what not, are not catch all terms, but are in fact categories that divide further down based upon taste. That just because you have two daddies, doesn't mean they're going to like the same things, adhere to the same standards of Daddyness (Yes, I made up a word). Nor is there a catch all for girls. Just like a normal relationship, there are various idiosyncrasies that pepper our personalities and make us unique.
With that, I say that there is a pattern, but the pattern may not necessarily be attributed to you. There are a lot of complaints like this and others lodged against both sides of the community, and the problem stems from communication and honesty. The internet offers some anonymity but because of that, it also offers avenues for dishonesty. Again, this is purely speculation, but it's a common problem within the internet/AB-DL community. So it's a hard medium to place trust.
My only piece of advice is this, You're a human being and you have the right to be happy, submissive or not. Communication is key to any relationship and if you're serious about it, it's the only way to help you understand why you feel he's acting that way. Millions of psychologists and couples councilors can't be wrong, and its true. I'm not saying that you haven't talked with him about it, but you're seeking answers here.
Oh! And my little one makes a comment on moods. Much like when you want to get frisky you have to be in a mood to have sex, the same can be said of feeling babyish. That goes the same for daddies too. Just like you said you balance your adult life, and that you sometimes fall out of pampers in favor of panties, he too might be in a funk and not feeling like wearing his Daddy pants. Also be open to his wants too. Little girls can be very demanding little things, and often overlook the fact that Daddies need attention too. And you should know what your Daddy wants.
This little essay was by no means a catch all, nor was it meant to apply in every case. They are just observations of my 13 years in the community talking with all manner of people. The two best pieces of advice I can give you is to communicate and understand that relationships are about compromise for both of you.
Just my 2 cents.
Well...more like 45 dollars.