Posted by Glad to help on January 22, 2010 at 06:05 [69.115.231.187]
In Reply to: Re: Overintellectualized posted by Dr. A Non Mouse PhD. on January 20, 2010 at 15:56
Weird reply. You're "not saying" that I'm "a bad Daddy" -- yet earlier you call me a misogynist? I don't see the need for ad hominem attacks. But okay, whatever.
My slave loves rape play as do most of my ex-submissives. Contrary to your assumption, I didn't cajole or otherwise force that fantasy upon them. I'm smiling as I write this because I know my ex-submissives very well -- they are very confident, self-actualized women who were quick to tell me exactly what their kinks and limits are. They have no problems drawing the line in the sand. (incidentally, most of these same ex-submissives also enjoy diapers / AB play)
Rape play *IS* an extremely common fantasy among women, and *IS* extremely common among women who have been raped. Rape play can be an outlet for them to control and reshape a horrible experience. Unlike real rape, rape play is a consensual experience where a woman can choose everything about her experience: who her "attacker" is, what he looks like, what the surroundings are, whether she is bound or not, and she can control the outcome -- if and when it stops. Unlike real rape, with rape play, *SHE* is in control. Real-life kink groups are full of women who love to talk about how much they enjoy rape play -- and who are self-assured enough to tell the group that they were raped. Whether you agree with this fact or not is irrelevant, it remains a fact.
I can understand how play rape can be unsettling to the uninitiated. Rape is a sensitive topic. Just as I can understand how ABism can be unsettling to outsiders, who might otherwise mistakenly perceive it as pertaining to actual children. Just as I can understand how spanking and whipping can be unsettling to some, who otherwise misperceive that as "abuse."
Those who are so unsettled -- and then reply emotionally (as I believe you did) -- ought consider the myths surrounding their own kinks, and whether they would want others to fire from the hip before listening.
Shifting gears: as for polyamory -- my original reply clearly says that many men and women alike feel that monogamy is unnatural. I can't see how that comment plays unfairly to either gender. And frankly, I see nothing wrong with comparing my *want* for a woman to that of my *want* for a cheese sandwich, or any other want. Doesn't mean I equate women to food. The analogy is simply that -- an analogy. You're reading into my analogy unmeritoriously.
I stand by my posts word-for-word. If, in your eyes, that makes me a woman-hater, then I can't change that perception, nor do I want to. And after reading your posts, nor are you likely to change my opinion that you're overintellectualizing this topic. You've failed to convince me how AB girls or Daddies are collectively any different from any other kink segment. You and I are at an ideological impasse, and I suggest we let it remain at that.