Posted by Dr. A Non Mouse PhD. on January 20, 2010 at 15:56 [68.89.175.232]
In Reply to: Overintellectualized posted by Glad to help on January 20, 2010 at 09:46
Wow. Okay, lets see. Where to begin. Oh yeah, I was just trying to be nice and offer possible answers through speculation, thanks for taking it a step above with coded veils of insults against my noted speculation, as opposed to your treatise of fact that you emphasize with asterisks. I *really* appreciate that.
Okay, first off, lets be honest here.
You're trashing monogamy because of your own beliefs, as indicated by your use of the term "Many Men", I conclude that you include yourself within this, and you also direct us towards the belief that Polygamy is in fact natural, because *Many* men aren't faithful. So lets take apart his argument so we can see what he's really trying to say.
His own misogynistic beliefs of relationships color his first paragraph by trying to defend the guy who lost interest. Stating that wanting multiple partners is as natural as breathing, and eating (As indicated by his analogy of food to women, another lovely misogynistic comment).
Monogamy, sir, is not archaic as you lead us to believe. Civilizations started the first trends of monogamy well before religious and social institutions promoted the practice. Polygyny was used in agrarian times in order to supplement the work needed on subsistence farms and herding, not so Farmer Bill could try out the "cheese sandwich" of his neighbor's wife.
The truth is, men make up whatever justifications they need (women included) to go and try variety. Your comments are unwarranted because, if you enter into a monogamous relationship and you go looking away from your looking for a little nip of a "cheese sandwich", you're the moron. As I assume the original writer of the comment wasn't in a poly relationship(Otherwise she would have said something, or wouldn't have felt as upset about him looking at other girls), then the rules of Monogamy apply. Kthnx.
Asexual AB girls.
They what?! Yeah, you tell that to every woman who was raped, see how long you keep your jaw in place. *MANY* women who were raped have rape fantasies? Are you stoned? Do you know just how many people need therapy because of this? How fucked up it makes their lives in regards to other relationships where key things like trust are involved? Sure, lets buy that a potentially life changing and emotionally crippling event takes place in their childhood, and you're saying that all women who experience it like it so much they wanna relive it in fantasy? I'm not saying that it doesn't happen, but those cases would be more the exception instead of the rule. Rape is not a fantasy, nor will it ever be. Its the physical suppression of feminine identity, moving them away from being caring, thinking rational human beings into objects to be defiled for a twisted self-satistifactory purpose. And no, rape fantasies are *NOT* extremely common for women, often it is the *men* who instigate such play. Two points for you.
Maybe AB girls just want someone to be there for them, supportive and nurturing. Someone to give snuggles and kiss boo boos, and to make them feel like they're the most important person in the world. And sex has nothing to do with that. If you're telling me that they're bizarre, or strange because they don't want to have sex when they just want to be held, then I give up.
The thing is we're not all the same, and we should know this by now. Just because you identify in a group, doesn't make you automatically like everyone else in the group, just one of the many facets of identity that make us unique. That's generalization sir, and when you generalize you make general lies.
"Collectively" we are all different. We come from different backgrounds, different educations and social situations, the one thing that "Collectively" binds us, is an enjoyment of Adult Women who don't quite act their age. That's it. Nothing more. I don't at all Identify with your views on being a daddy, but that doesn't make me any less of one. It all comes down to taste. Your way of being a daddy is no greater or less than my way, in truth its just different.
I'm not saying that you're a bad Daddy, I'm sure there are plenty of girls out there who like the same kinds of things that you do, but don't be like Freud and assume just because you think this way that everyone else *must*.