Posted by Daddy on December 21, 2008 at 07:11 [98.210.111.34]
In Reply to: Re: Girls who can "pass" posted by L.E. on December 20, 2008 at 15:19
L.E.,
I'm lucky that I didn't have any such policies when I met Kitty. If I had written her off for having a lip piercing, then I'd have missed the opportunity of a lifetime. Kitty and I fell in love when we met - profoundly and unexpectedly. It is the best thing that has ever happened to me. It would have been a colossal mistake to have rejected her over a piece of jewelry.
I can understand how something obviously not age-appropriate, like a facial piercing, could be a distraction when it comes to ageplay, but with Kitty there is a transformation beyond appearances that happens when she's little. There is a happiness, and exuberance, and love in her that is so pure and so intense that it is infectious. Little Kitty is so genuinely happy that it spreads to those around her, and it warms the heart of everyone who meets her - even people that do not understand ageplay. It's a concept that is difficult to convey in writing. When Kitty is safe and happy, she is a little girl. No appearance is ever going to change that.
I'm going to assume you aren't trying to insult me personally by implying that I'm a bad daddy and a cynic and instead have a go at answering the questions you've posed.
What sort of Daddy would tolerate body-mods on a little one? That's easy! Little Kitty isn't the one with the lip piercing. Although ageplay is an important and daily part of our lives, it is only a part of the whole that makes up my wife (and only a part of the whole that makes up me). People are complex creatures with complex needs. Ageplaying fulfills our primary emotional need, practicing and BDSM and D/s meets a secondary need, and being a devoted wife and husband to one another addresses yet another need. When Kitty is little, I take care of her. When she is big, she takes care of me. If she were little all the time, then she wouldn't have the opportunity to care for the people whom she loves, that that is as important to Kitty as being a daddy is to people like you and me. Little Kitty isn't the one who needed that lip piercing to feel complete. It's not her daddy that tolerates it, it is her husband that supports her.
Who but a cynic would court such self-damage? This question, I believe, reveals a disapproval of body-mods in general. Do you also consider pierced ears to be self-damage? I don't think her piercing is self-damage at all, but instead a cosmetic expression of who Kitty is. When it comes to little girls, it's been my observation that many of them have experienced a significant emotional trauma of one kind or another, which has led to real self-harm issues to contend with. I've known little girls who punish themselves by not eating, by over-eating, by exercising themselves to exhaustion, by cutting, by denying themselves the things that make them happy, the list goes on and on. If you are as experienced a daddy as you present yourself to be, then surely you must have observed this as well. I can confidently say that I have been the most positive, healing presence in Kitty's life, and what I think of her lip ring has had nothing to do with that.
We've talked about her lip ring, and Kitty will remove her piercing if I put my foot down. I'm not going to make a demand like that however, because I know her well enough to understand that Kitty's lip ring is part of her adult self-image. She feels that it is part of who she is, and as her Daddy I would never deny her of being who she is.
To each his own though, L.E.. If a lip piercing is something you feel so strongly about, then the little girl that's right for you probably will have a similar view - that's part of what will make the two of you right for each other. As for me, with all of my heart I love all of my little girl... even her lip piercing.
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