Posted by Kimmie on September 20, 2004 at 15:32 [24.67.253.203]
Here's the bitch complaining again. I just thought I'd share some thoughts about all of us. When I try and sum up an image of an AB I think of a guy in a onsie wearing a diaper. Thats not a bad image, but it says a lot. I think a lot of people have this idea that being AB or having a diaper fetish means thats all you are. Most people will agree, that there are fewer women involved in this than there are men. Well, I dont think it has to be that way. I think it would be great if people started seeing this as what it is. A role playing game. When you're having some little time, you're playing a role. That's not who you are.
Before I knew about adult babies, or diaper lovers I just liked to piss myself. Thats a big difference than being an adult baby. When I found out about it, I thought it was pretty retarded. But what changed my mind about it was that it was a fun game. A sexual role. If I had been told that being AB means living that role as a baby when you are an adult, I would have never gotten involved in it at all. No way.
So many people like to draw connections between the gay community and the adult baby community. The truth is there is little to no connection at all. There's nothing similar between them and there never will be. We are not fighting for anything besides finding a partner to accept our role playing now and then. There are few of us who actually have the luxury of living our fantasies 24/7.
We have more in common with the kink community or BDSM community than the gay one. Even then that connection is limited as strength and submission is more easily accpeted as sexual triggers than is care giving and nurturing.
Even still are not being oppressed. Maybe you would like to be able to wear your diapers and onsie's out in public with out being harrassed, without being morally persecuted for it. But guess what? A lot of people feel they should be allowed to have sex in public, A lot of people feel they should be allowed to do a lot things society deems unnacceptable. We are not being oppressed. Nothing stops you from meeting other people and enjoying diapers in your homes except your own guilt for doing so. Nothing stops you from buying adult diapers. What you do in your home is your business. Taking a sexual game into public is another story. It is wrong not because of what you like, but because you are violating moral decency by bringing your sexual activity into public. We are not being oppressed.
We need to get it out of our heads that this fetish is somehow clashing with societies morals. That some how we are fighting against something we are not. No one cares if you like to wear diapers at home. So long as they stay at home. You might think that you should be allowed to dress and behave as you please without being punished for it so long as you are not hurting anyone. Well guess what? If you did do that you would be hurting others. People who don't know, or don't understand about it would feel uncomfortable, maybe even threatened if they saw you. No one has the right to inflict their beliefs or sexuality onto others unless its consensual.
For the people who claim it has nothing to do with sex, I'm skeptical of that and I always have been. If you feel the need to behave as a child for no other reason other than it helps you cope then I'm sorry but you need to find other mechinisms to help you. Adults are just that adults. Playing a game is one thing, but beleiving you are a child is something completely different.
There is no woman or man on this planet that wants to act as a care giver for someone for the rest of their life. Relationships are mutual arrangements. If you believe that you can find someone who will give this to you then good luck, but I don't think you'll find anyone who will want to.
However if you enter a relationship, and explain that you enjoy playing this role now and again then you are more likely to find acceptance. Your partner is more willing to participate if they feel its just something you enjoy doing, not something YOU ARE.
Thats the difference. We're NOT adult babies; we enjoy BEING an adult baby.
How do I know this? Because I used to think it was stupid, and now I enjoy it. Why? because it was a fun game.
We take ourselves way too seriously. We put too much emphasis on WHAT WE ARE. Rather than WHO WE ARE. This is something we like, it isn't a character trait.
All we ever hear about is negative crap; It's become sad to even be involved in this anymore because no one ever talks about how they enjoy diapers, the fun things they've done. No one shares fantasies anymore all because everyone is so wrapped up in the politics of this instead of just enjoying whats fun about it.
In my opinion the state of our union is pathetic.