Posted by little boo on January 20, 2010 at 14:12 [24.30.37.28]
In Reply to: Am I doing it wrong???? posted by Daddysam on January 18, 2010 at 06:36
My only guess would be based on personal experience. Earlier in life, I initiated contact before i was ready (been an lg since my teens) and so i may have felt fine about the other person but retreated because of my own nervousness. No, it's not the best when a woman doesn't even give you closure, but I would caution you against taking it personally every time. I feel like it's easier for men to be upfront with their non-vanilla interests than it is for women based on how we are socialized.
All that said, I know a couple turn-offs i have had are as follows:
- having someone try to coerce me into something i don't want to do (e.g., asking me to walk in just a mid-thigh coat and diaper at a park on our first time meeting).
- having someone send me a blown up picture of his penis within the first 10 minutes. that's gross, even if you try to makeit sound cute like calling it a baby bottle.
good things:
1. someone willing to go at a pace i am comfortable with.
2. someone who checks in with me throughout the time together to ensure that point 1 is in place
3. someone who is responsible and has their stuff together. It's not that easy to entrust yourself to a 'daddy' who lives with their parents, works at the same movie theatre they did in high school, or has never had to shop for their own clothes. LGs are looking for daddies to trust and look up to- it's hard to do that if the guy isn't grown up.