Posted by GentleDad on January 16, 2010 at 14:48 [174.54.32.108]
In Reply to: Re: Was I a bad Daddy? posted by Hurt Daddy on January 16, 2010 at 10:16
I think you did all that a reasonable person could do, and the rest is up to her. It's frustrating when a person retreats back into themselves so far that they become truly unreachable. But it happens. My thought right now (and please temper my thoughts with your own much deeper knowledge of the situation) is to back off completely, even knowing that that might be the end. You might say something like "If there is something else I've done that I don't know about but that upset you, I apologize for that, too. I'm hoping you can work out the thing that is on your mind, and I'm looking forward to hearing from you again." (or "continuing our friendship" or something like that.) It's sincere, it's positive and it's forward-looking, but it also says that she won't be hearing much from you until she gets her act in order. It may or may not help, but I think it's the most & best that you can do now. It's hard to communicate with someone who isn't talking, so best not to try. She's doing some intensive processing over something, and I think the best is to just leave her alone, but in a way that she will not think you are angry or rejecting.
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