Posted by A. on November 30, 2008 at 20:50 [24.172.165.195]
In Reply to: Re: ABgirls and incontinence training posted by cuddlemonkey on November 30, 2008 at 19:25
... on the other side of this argument, but I cannot for the life of me pick out the point where a value judgment favoring ageplay bottoms who aspire to incontinence over those who do not... only statements by either of the main parties to the discussion where each said that such a choice appeals to him in a partner. At no point was any such litmus test applied to some abstract notion of a "true" ageplay bottom.
The meme we're flogging about LE or SFD (forgive the abbreviation) supposedly implying the notion that the aforementioned bottoms are better is false. I would assert that it has been created only by the seeming insecurities of others here, and their own supposition that others they've never met think they're not good enough due to not making the kink we all share here their constant, everyday reality.
I worry, though, that there are value judgments being passed against those who do see ageplay with diapers as the opposite of "not a lifestyle choice". Perhaps what was meant to be implied was "not the lifestyle choice I would choose to make". Perhaps I'm just letting my blood boil over a bit, but I read it as "not a valid lifestyle choice for me, or any other sane individual"... and I find that inflammatory, offensive, and guilty of preaching "one true way."
Regardless, those who seem to have such an issue with the notion of diaper training (regardless of their gender or role) would do better to be more specific, and more considerate, in their remarks.