Posted by The Voice Of Reason on September 24, 2004 at 03:43 [213.123.247.222]
In Reply to: Re: Ladies...Don't Be So Cruel posted by Kimmie on September 23, 2004 at 17:18
Quote: "They just dont seem to get the idea that they wouldnt behave that way in real life, for some reason they think its ok on the interenet. It isnt!"
I think that's exactly why they do it, because they can't say it in real life. Most of these guys, if you met them in the street, would be as timid as a dormouse lol! The internet provides a safety valve. I genuinely do feel sorry for you poor women on the receiving end of all this, but I guess you just gotta view the unwanted sexual emails like all unwanted email, i.e. spam pure and simple. Speaking for myself, if I was to email a woman I would naturally try to get her attention and make an impact - how else does one stand out from the crowd?! I'd like to think I wouldn't be as crude as some of those guys who emailed you, but everyone gets it wrong sometimes!
All I'm saying is: don't condemn all AB/DL guys as weirdos or freaks, some of us are otherwise perfectly normal, civilised and kind-hearted. We just have rather peculiar ideas about what we find sexy and erotic and it's sometimes difficult to put them into sweet, gentle, seductive words.
Quote 2: "They just want a quick way to get off, and they're not interested in really getting to know you. They just pretend they care to listen so they can get everything they want from you."
Can't really argue with this, but I think you could say exactly the same about many, many women in real life, i.e. women you meet at a bar or a party who just want instant sex without getting to know ya first. It's just a particular segment of modern society (men and women) who don't understand the appeal of waiting and taking things slow. I'm not like that - I have my sexual urges sure, but I'm just as interested in the emotional, intellectual and spiritual side to life as I am the sexual! The perfect relationship to me is a balance of all these things.
Yeah I'm trying to big myself up here, but hopefully not at the expense of other guys who maybe can't express themselves as clearly as I can.
Ah go on, send us an email! Just for a laugh;-) What harm will it do ya? You got nothing to lose!!! (Am I sounding desperate or am I sounding desperate?!) At least I can see the funny side of my tragi-comic situation: I'm a grown man who most people when they meet me think I'm quite sexy and attractive. The trouble is the only things I'm interested in are of the DL variety, dry girls just don't do it for me.
All these well-meaning girls who know me say "When you gonna get a girlfriend?" I wish I could turn round and say "When I find a woman who likes peeing or pooing herself, or who will tolerate me doing it." But I can't, I have to stay silent and try to change the subject tactfully. Many probably think I'm gay.
That's why I (and I'm assuming most of the other guys) sometimes get a bit lewd here. We have nowhere else to express ourselves. I hope you ladies can understand and forgive us.
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