Posted by Leslie on October 19, 2003 at 16:37 [67.8.240.160]
In Reply to: Well.. She became my Mommy.. posted by Ben on October 18, 2003 at 14:03
Well I sure have a comment. If she loves you she would do whatever it took to keep you. You are really fortunate that she can get into this with you.
You would probably not appreciate it if she took her unfulfilled desires or fantasies to another man. In fact, it might well be the end of the relationship. So it's no surprise that she'd react negatively to the idea of your taking your fetish elsewhere.
I was fortunate in being able to quite enjoy my boyfriend's fetish (which is not yours) but really do not appreciate it at all when he indulges it "elsewhere," ie looking at teens on the internet wetting their clothes. It is especially difficult in light of the fact that he and I are in our '50s and neither of us can compete with 20 year old bodies at this stage of the game. But I have no interest in anyone but him so insecurity re. his 50+ body is not an issue for him, since I give him cause for none. I, on the other hand, am really saddened by his behavior. Even though I'm in very good shape for my age, I sure don't look 19.
Am wondering how the rest of the board feels about their SOs indulging their desires and fantasies with others, either literally or online.
And is there really any difference psychologically?
Would appreciate your responses.