Posted by Accidental Tourist on March 13, 2010 at 07:14 [146.186.156.98]
In Reply to: Questionnaire posted by pants on March 12, 2010 at 20:18
Are there any other schemas you are aware of that might describe people with our fetish? Perhaps ones with more positive affects? Like Logger, I would have to score myself low(1) on almost all of the questions.
The exception is #3, about secrets, where I would score myself a 5. I have shared my love of this fetish with a couple of people; interestingly they were close but not the closest -- I think that is why I was willing to share with them. Our fetish is regarded by society the same way homosexuality was regarded in the 1950s, and I think there is a real, not just a perceived, danger in revealing it. It may be getting better but it is way too early for most of us to come out of the closet.
There are two reasons why this schema might not apply to many of us on these fora. One is that the fetish may not be all there is that's important to us. For example : "I am inherently flawed and defective. I am unworthy of love." Even if I regarded myself as defective because of my fetish (which I don't), there are many other things about me which I view as positive -- my appearance (I'm not gorgeous but I look OK), my intelligence, my compassionate nature, etc. Secondly, the fetish itself brings me joy even if recognize that there are few people in my life with whom I can share it. There may be some people here for whom the fetish is joyless and compulsive, but I know that many here actually enjoy it. It is fun, pleasurable, exciting, erotic -- what's not to love?!