Posted by Logger on March 12, 2010 at 20:44 [75.211.84.21]
In Reply to: Questionnaire posted by pants on March 12, 2010 at 20:18
1. No man or woman could love me if he/she really knew me.
My wife really knows me, everything. And she loves me, and I her.
2. I am inherently flawed and defective. I am unworthy of love.
Everybody is inherently flawed and defective. Anybody who thinks otherwise of him or her self is delusional and not someone you would want to know. However, I am worthy of love because of the loving things I do for the people for whom I care the most, and I receive love from them, and they from me.
3. I have secrets that I do not want to share, even with the people closest to me.
Who doesn't?
4. It was my fault that my parents could not love me.
My parents did (do) love me.
5. I hide the read me. The real me is unacceptable. The self I show is a false self.
When facing a 275 pound madman armed with a knife who wants to kill you, when leading a group of men into a raging forest fire, I have to hide the real me the me who says "Screw this, I'm outta here!" and instead throw the fear into a back corner and go out there and get'er done! And yes, I've done these things.
6. I am often drawn to people – parents, friends, and lovers- who are critical and reject me.
Well, that would be stupid and self destructive, wouldn't it?
7. I am often critical and rejecting myself, especially of people who seem to love me.
Huh? Critical of myself: how else can I hope to improve? Critical of those who seem to love me? Not real sure what you're asking here. English please?
8. I devalue my positive qualities.
I have to! If I didn't I'd be an insufferable bastard and my true greatness would be revealed, and I'd be forced to deal with lesser humans who needed my help all the time (no time for pron).
9. I live with a great deal of shame about myself.
No. From time to time I feel dissatisfaction about some element of my existence. When this happens, I consider the source of this dissatisfaction and correct the deficiency. Or decide to live with it.
10. One of my greatest fears is that my faults will be exposed.
Greater fear is that my virtues will be exposed. Seriously.
Add your scores together for questions 1.-10.
Interpreting your score, the ‘defectiveness schema’:
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