Posted by Tinker on September 29, 2000 at 10:56
In Reply to: Re: The Net and meeting women posted by Another Old Timer on September 28, 2000 at 19:58
Well, now all the old hands are sorta signing off
here, I think I should pop in, too.
I have been involved with WS stuff on the Internet
from before the time that most people knew what the
hell the Internet was anyway. 1992-1993 onwards.
From the time that the newsgroups were not spammed
because the very word "spam" was yet unknown.
Over the years, I have had lots of newsgroup
and forum discussions with many people, among which
a respectable amount of women (or so I think).
I never tried to approach them in any other way
then by postings, and usually not by posting
something like "I WANNA MEET SOME HOT GAL IN NYC
WHO WANTS TO" etc etc you know the yelling type.
Instead, I just started writing stories that were
mostly funny and warm (pardon the pun) and I
reasoned: well, if there is anybody out there
more or less interested in meeting me, this would
be the best way. And the many reactions of (I
presume) women I got that way were very nice and
reassuring. Most of them just said: I am not going
to reveal who I am and you will never hear from
me again, but I want to let you know how much I
like your stories. So I got encouraged that I was
not a total idiot and I learned that there WERE
women out there, sharing my fantasies, lurking on
the board, but not coming out of the closet.
In the meantime I invented some dream character
called Diana who was the fairy tale princess
cheerleader with whom my fantasy copycat character
could live together and have fun. Diana was mostly
whom I would love to have as a girlfriend. I
could only dream of her, of course. Such a fairy
would never exist in reality.
But eventually, the miracle happened: a real-world
Diana appeared, got interested in my stories, then
in me, and half a year later we met in person.
We both went through a huge lot of first-time
experiences that first memorable night, I can
assure you. From then on, my life and hers have
been totally changed and we are going to get married
next year.
And no, we don't wet ourselves every day. That
part of our relationship is very nice and we still
like it a lot, both of us, but it isn't the main
thing. It's maybe 1%. A very nice 1%, but only
superficial in comparison with the *real* reasons
we stay together. What I like a lot, though, is
that we don't need to hide things for eachother,
that we can talk about how we began, and what we
would like. Like the fantasy Tinker and Diana did
when I still wrote stories regularly.
So, as some kind of "last post" on this board
before it goes behind the iron curtain, I want
to say to all of you desperate guys out there:
it's not the personality you assume on the Net
that is going to land you a wet spouse. It's
who you really are. And there are few ways that
expose your inner self better than to write long,
thoughtful postings or stories. If it then turns
out that you are a jerk, so be it. The Net won't
solve that for you.
But if you are genuinely interested in meeting
another person for life and oh by the way, it would
be nice if (s)he shared some wet fantasies with
you, then you have a fairly good chance of meeting
somebody who *does not need to pay* to get at
your messages. People who pay have other expectations.