Posted by pantiespooper on December 16, 2010 at 07:53 [70.116.74.190]
In Reply to: My Thursday and Friday posted by Jenn on December 13, 2010 at 11:47
Jenn,
There is only one real piece of advice one can give. (It helps for me to summarize)
I applaud that you have found something that will endear you to our little group, as exoect that you have found something (like me) that you will never stop doing. You have discovered that there are many things that trip your trigger, and you know the ones that will trip your husbands. You know that he has one of his own, and now you know he has it, but he does not yet know you know (getting bad here). It was not yours at the time, but suddenly, and in a VERY big way, it has become yours; you MADE it yours. And you did it for (mostly) one reason, which you could not really deny even from the very beginning: You want to share it with him. He obviously likes it a lot, and (even though you have been married for a while) you have absolutely no idea how long he's been doing it.
(It also helps to put myself into someone else's shoes)
What would I do? Because of your discovery, I have put a LOT of thought into this, but I have challenges that will not allow it to be the same as yours. First, I am the one that has been pooping her panties for a (very) long time - not him. Second, there is no chance that my husband would ever want to do any of this with me. However, I have put some thought into it anyway.
If I discovered that he was filling his pants and enjoying it (as most men do), I have absolutely no idea how I would feel. If I had never done it, or never tried it, I would be more like you - I would want to find the attraction... what makes him want to do it -- I would try it myself. I can't put myself into this side of your picture because I have done it too long, and because it is not a sexual thing for me. You were automatically driven to making it sexual because you wanted to do it with and for your husband (here I empasize WITH).
Ok, now that I am there, what do I do after I have tried it, and had some very joyous times with it? Now, I want to make the connection with him. But he doesn't know I saw him, and he doesn't know that I have tried it (this seems to get worse all the time). Well, my thinking has brought to me one other possibility. This one came to me remembering when two girls found one another. It is a bit of a story (public place, and highly circumstantial), but the key words were, "I saw what you did, and I want to do it with you."
So it occurred to me --- why not leave him a note in his jacket or somewhere else; something he can find and know it came from you; something (or some way) he would find when he is not in your presence? (No signature, handwriting should be enough) It has merits in a couple of ways. It gets him wondering about what you 'saw.' It becomes a way of opening conversation about it, without trying to do it in person, and becoming super embarassed, OR embarassing him. It puts him on the hook to begin. And you should let him do most of the talking. Perhaps you could write something like, "I saw what you did, tried it, love it (not past tense), and I want to do it with you." Were I able to put myself in your shoes, I might consider this as a way to crack the door to exploration and wonder. If I were to want to add more to the note, it would probably be too much (drawing from a phrase, "Say little to say a lot" - and this is a LOT).
I have thought of trying to put myself in 'his' shoes, but I am not a man, and I cannot pretend to have the emotions that he has.
Jenn, I dont know what works best for you. You are perhaps in one of the greatest delimma's a girl can get into, and perhaps the most wonderful. I know you will find a way.
The best advice, then?
You love your guy, and he loves you.
You know your guy - we don't.
You know your circumstances - we don't.
You know what feels good to you - we don't.
You know what feels good to him - we don't.
Therefore, all we can do is submit suggestions for your consideration. Take ALL suggestions (yes, even mine) with no intent of actually doing any of them; they are just for consideration. Each of us (yes, you too) has a notion of what might work, and might not. Even though some of the suggestions you received here were not necessarily for you (more of you doing something for them), they, too, can be considered.
Above all, be yourself, and be loving. Oh, and with that in mind, keep in the forefront that he loves you and has no notion that you would ever want to hurt or embarass him - why would he consider it; he knows that you love him; right?
I expect that it will be the love you share that will bring the two of you more strongly together than ever.
Hmmm... Love in Bloom; Love in poop. Yup, pretty much the same thing. hahahahaha....
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