Posted by L.E. on September 15, 2004 at 16:01 [12.144.5.5]
I remember the words Tanya posted on the AB/DL board,that she was neither AB nor DL but a committed lifestyle Daddy's Girl.This from someone who trained herself over months to always wet her diapers whenever asleep...something achieved by a minority of ABs and DLs,I expect,and certainly qualifying her as a "Bedwetter" among the other topics at Wetset etc!
Nonetheless,the distinctions appear important to some,and I am interested in where others see the boundaries as being.From what I have seen of the DG genre,I am definitely more attracted to the idea of being the Daddy of an ABgirl than a DGirl,but definitions can be confusingly fluid.I do not like sass and brattiness,if authority isn't obeyed there's little point in turning it into a conflict.I can't fathom any expressed intent to "potty train" an ABgirl,all the training in the relationship should be toward diaper dependence to the maximum extent that both partners find comfortable.
Discipline I see as reserved for failure to remain in role to the extent the dom/Daddy knows the girl is capable of,disapproval directed toward inappropriately adult rather than inappropriately childish behavior.I gather that the DG paradigm involves her perpetually "growing up",where I see the relationship as based on her "growing down".
Also,the DG role age seems to be on the high end of diaper use,while I ideally see the woman as trained to the crawling infant stage,vocabulary limited as far as possible to certain infant sounds.(I don't expect this 24/7 but whenever practical!).The relationship is certainly a sexual one,as I see a woman's adoption of the infant role as enhancing her sex appeal.But she should act in role whenever possible,even when sucking or riding da-da's wee-wee.
Bottles and rattles and the like are a given with me,more expensive paraphernalia like crib and high chair would have to be considered in terms of what benefit they would bring the relationship for her to use them.I expect that these don't interest DGs?
Diaper use is certainly central to me,as is diaper change time as a regular interaction.I can't see getting very far with someone who didn't enjoy or learn to enjoy the feel of a WET diaper,as I would not want to have to change her at every little wetting.Likewise,her learning to need the diapers and wet without control would be a very important act of commitment in which I would help her.(I can't get turned on by someone whose diaper need is medical in origin,it needs to be for fetish reasons;but the fetish interest is multiplied by being taken to the point of genuine dependence).I would expect wetting to be fully explored before experimenting with messing,proceeding only on the basis of shared enjoyment.
Wet bedsheets have never been a turnon as such,but I think that once she was wetting in her sleep,occasionally leaving her diapers off to dramatize the fact that she needed them would be useful,again not to make her feel negative about her being what I wanted her to be,but to demonstrate it!