Posted by LittleMissWiggles on August 13, 2006 at 14:36 [205.188.116.14]
In Reply to: Question for LG’s and Daddies… posted by Trish :-) on August 04, 2006 at 19:30
Hi,
I haven't posted here before (eek! a lurker!), but I'd like to offer a perspective.
For me, ageplay and bdsm have been separate, distinct, and pervasive parts of my sexuality ever since I became aware of having a sexuality (and probably long before then as well). Combining the two has been cathartic in a way that I could not have imagined. Nothing makes me feel safer, 'littler,' and more well-loved than taking the various torments my daddy devises for me, whether they are for punishment, gratification, or simple amusement.
And also, since I have not seen this part of your question addressed: I am a survivor of child abuse. Perhaps this is paradoxical and of course I don't claim to speak for every survivor, but I personally do not connect pain from my daddy with the terror I lived with as a child. While as a child I lived in a hostile, fragile minefield full of triggers and traps laid by my mother's issues, my relationship with my daddy is built on a premise of absolute safety, respect and trust. He gives me the intense love and pain I crave, not the abuse and disdain of a realparent who hurts out of spite and disregard.
The flip side of this is also a paradox: because of my history, we do not engage in non-physical punishment unless we are in a specifically negotiated 'scene.' Harsh words and taking privileges away are far more triggering for me than a slap to the face or a belt to the bottom, because they tread close to the feelings of worthlessness and self-loathing that were my mother's legacy to me.
Just throwing it out there, and I apologize if any of this is hard to stomach or inappropriate for this board.
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