Posted by nurturingsir on June 23, 2006 at 15:03 [65.60.219.107]
In Reply to: Daddy questions... posted by fantasyforlulu on June 22, 2006 at 21:33
ah, for me similar to what tricia said above, I've always had a very strong drive to nurture and take care of people. I've also liked being the sub once, so as a switch thats mostly dominant I can explain it from both ends I think. It's not a sexual thing, for me, and it doesn't just make me feel good, it fills a void I guess you'd say. Mostly I take care of "boys" in their early 20's, I enjoy being playful with them, cuddling, helping them, and being supportive emotionaly. I've played with one girl in rl, that was fun, she was cute, but when we first met she wanted me paddle her, I've hand spanked my babies sometimes but never paddled, I had mixed feelings about this, but decided to give it a try. I discovered that for me, I can handspank playfully or seriously to a limit, but paddling was hard because it scared me that I might hurt the person I was trying to take care of a catch-22, even though they enjoyed it, it scared me and I couldn't do it anymore. I enjoyed handspanking because it established trust, in that the "baby" trusted me to give themselves over to me entirely, but I also am big on aftercare, and lots of cuddling to reassure them and bond.
I don't think I would make a good parent for little kids because even though I can be strict, I'm very playful, and it's hard for me to be the "heavy". Discipline with adults is different, I like the sense of trust and the power exchange, though the paddeling scares me too much, maybe I'd have to work up to that with someone I understood real well.
I also enjoy the warm feelings associated with cuddling and feeding and playing a lot. Indeed I even wrote a list of things to do with your ab, I've posted in forums sometimes. I love the soft nurturing and playfulness as opposed to serious s&m, etc. It;s also maybe a chance for me to live vicariously through someone else.
As a sub, it's hard for me to get into that mode, I have to be with someone I really trust to let my guard down, it's a very vulnerable side that I've only given to one person once.
I won't deny I have my fetishes, and my turn ons but those are seperate in that when I'm in a caretaker mode it's hard for me to think that way and I get uncomfy and confused if it's pushed. Though it can be a fetish for me, but only if the person is not acting in the role of an ab.
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