Posted by Daddy4Life on April 02, 2006 at 20:32 [71.0.80.136]
In Reply to: Stubborn Daddies posted by Leigh on March 28, 2006 at 00:00
Dear Leigh,
I have read of your relations with your beau for some time, and it sounds as though you have an otherwise satisfying relationship. Much of the advice given recently sounds well-intentioned and offerred with genuine concern for your interests. I wish to provide a bit of cautionary advice, however, also with concern for your interests.
First, I have serious doubts that your man would be the least bit receptive to an on-line relationship with a Daddy. Even if conducted with a Daddy of impeccable character, it would be likely that he would consider the prospect an act of emotional infidelity. For most men, including myself, as well as for most LGs, their interests are as strongly sexual as they are emotional, and the likelihood would be high that he (Daddy), and eventually you, would surrender to those impulses, or at least struggle with temptation.
Your BF is not stupid, and whether he acknowledges it or not, he must have some clue that your fondness for diapers and LG behavior is a profound part of your psycho-sexual self. The implication that you would turn to another man to fulfill your LG needs, even if only on an emotional, sexless level, would not likely be something that he could handle.
Second, you have to prepare yourself sweetie for the fact that all of your efforts and patience may not amount to anything more than "pissing in the wind." You are part of this Daddy/LG community for a reason; your feelings and needs are as natural to you as breathing. Your BF, as great as he seems, may be exactly what he appears to be, a vanilla sweetie-pie. My experience is that few people make dramatic changes in emotional/sexual nature, except as a matter of releasing long-repressed desires; and then that is more accurately described as emancipating one's true nature.
My guess is that, even assuming that he cares for you deeply, the best that you can hope for is affectionate tolerance, which I define differently than true acceptance, which includes encouragement and facilitation. It is not likely that you will ever experience the breakthrough with him that you must yearn for, ultimately a Daddy/LG relationship that he shares with you wholeheartedly.
I hope that I am wrong about this, and I do encourage you to keep working on him. On the messageboard you sound adorable, and it's hard to imagine that he could resist a sweet LG such as yourself. Don't wait too long for your birthright. Remember! You are NOT asking for anything unreasonable. He SHOULD love you EXACTLY as you are. And if he will not, there are multitudes of other good men out here, willing to be the Daddy you deserve.