Posted by Just Another Daddy on May 30, 2006 at 16:05 [24.44.1.29]
In Reply to: even now.... posted by LG in Manhattan on May 28, 2006 at 12:01
L.G.
Don't despair. It's not all so much of a conundrum, really, just a matter of balancing life, work and priorities. As technology has allowed an increase in perceived worker efficiency & capacity, and our society is adjusting to dual-income as the norm, people are feeling more and more at odds with their schedules and the demands of paying bills and keeping up with their ever-increasing workloads. This effects most of us in the work force, so don't get down; your situation is not all that unusual.
As to whether you actually have the time, well, that's a personal estimation that you'll have to make, but really, you're only able to enjoy life for so long, so I recommend making the most of it while you can. Now, if you have the impulse control to work two jobs, then you probably have the discipline to make commitments and see them through, and this is no less important when it comes to your personal life. I have found that quality time with that special someone (or quality time enjoying that special something) can be put off for quite a while, so long as their is spark enough where the little things can keep you going.
What sort of little things, you ask? And can they really be all that fun? If you have time to write on these boards while you're at work, then you probably have time for a D*ddy to drop you a quick call or an email to check up on you and make sure you're behaving (you're obviously not, by the way). If email at work is monitored, an innocuous, but cute code can always be worked out. A lot of people like to get calls or emails from their loved ones when slaving away at work, it allows a person to catch his or her breath and remember why he or she bothers to go to work, at all. And what baby wouldn't want a Daddy to call and check to see if they'd been able to go the whole night without wetting their diapers? After all, it's the only way us Daddy's know if it's time to try and potty train our little girls, or if you'll need thicker diapers and a new rubber sheet the next time you're tucked in. I bet you'd like a call or an email from a Daddy a few times a week, wouldn't you?
Goodnight calls that allow for a LG to be read a bedtime story, or the occasional stop by to diaper and tuck in a LG is always a fun, late night option on hectic work weeks. It may seem like too little to you, or a lot of effort to the person you're wanting to stop by, but even a half hour is enough time for a little discipline, a quick change and a reading of Goodnight Moon, or Stella Luna before being tucked in and kissed on the forehead.
When times are really busy there's always mass communication. How would you like coming home after a long day of working, and then running some hurried errands, to find a cute message left on your answering machine or an email explicitly telling you what you have to look forward to the next time you meet up with your Daddy? And tell me it wouldn't be fun to blush as someone sends you a picture of the cutest, pink rumba panties via your mobile phone with nothing but the accompanying text message: "What you'll be wearing Saturday. Much more appropriate than your pant suit, I think."
This might seem, to some, as though it'd be torturous and, indeed, it may be titillating, but it's that breath of anticipation which gives us something to hope and wait for.
So, are you honestly saying that you're happier now than you would be if you had a caring Daddy to keep tabs on you every now and then, read you goodnight stories, stop by once every week or so and make sure you were put to bed like a Bby needs to be and, once or twice a month, a good day or weekend of being treated like the LG we all know you to be?
And that's just part time, if you ever freed up your schedule enough to allow for a more fulltime relationship, I'm sure this would afford more possibilities if you found the right person. You live in the NYC area, trust me, there are tons of us guys who’d love to meet the right LG, so you have the pick of the litter, as it were.
In the end, it's up to you.
--Doug
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