Posted by Daddy4Life on May 28, 2006 at 23:36 [64.12.117.14]
In Reply to: even now.... posted by LG in Manhattan on May 28, 2006 at 12:01
Hi LG in Manhattan. I can empathize with the loneliness of wetting by yourself. I have had a few relationships with LGs that have lasted perhaps ten years total. There have also been a number of one nighters or other slightly longer encounters with varying degrees of satisfaction, but like most Daddies, there have been long intervals in which I have not been able to express that side of me. Being a "caregiver," there really is no other way TO express it except to SHARE it.
In your case, especially since you have known of your LG tendencies from childhood, you have at least some behaviors and feelings that are independent of sharing, and they have been present for most of your life.
The truth is most people assume that all LG expression requires interaction with a suitable Daddy, and I believe this is little different than the archaic social programming that used to convince vanilla women that they were inadequate without a man.
Some of the women I have met or chatted with via IM more closely identify themselves as submissive 1st and LG 2nd. Many of them happen upon a board like DG, it sounds exciting, they search for a Daddy, explore this for a while, but ultimately either move on and leave it behind, or they incorporate D/LG roleplay into their steadily growing repertoire.
Nothing wrong with that, in fact it is probably true that they constitute the majority of the women who call themselves LG. Still, they don't have the same sort of specific needs that a lifelong LG has. And the specific needs of a LG with lifelong tendencies falls into two general categories, those that indeed do require interaction with a caregiver, and those that require nurturing regardless of one's romantic reality.
Some LGs have explained how they managed to create their own private sanctuary at home where behaviors, activities, and general feelings were allowed and always encouraged, so that their LG could prevail and provide comfort during the inevitable periods in which they found themselves alone.
So, sweetie, I would discourage any notion of shutting your LG into an emotional closet and refusing to let her out until a gentleman Daddy comes a'callin' Sort out those aspects that make you feel positive, under any circumstances, whether it's sucking your thumb before drifting off to sleep or dragging your fave teddy around the house wherever you go or wearing an outfit that facilitates feeling smaller, and then do this regularly. Incorporate it into your daily routine, so that each day your LG has her time.
Remember, some of these things, whatever the specific ones are for you, gave you comfort, or were natural for you when you were 8, 10, 12, long before you knew that lovers who you called Daddy could help you derive even more intense feelings. The same is still true for you today.
Those behaviors that engender loneliness - put them aside for now until the day arrives that you can share them with a Daddy. And keep looking. Most of the people I know who are involved in this lead fairly full lives. It doesn't take time so much as interest, attraction, compatability, and then commitment. It doesn't work out as easily as these words flow through cyberspace, but have faith; you'll find a Daddy soon.