Posted by Elise on September 25, 2005 at 05:39 [141.155.21.103]
In Reply to: culture crossovers and mixing posted by nurturingsir on September 20, 2005 at 20:02
There is a definite cross-over for me. I tend to be wired for the extreme. A tablespoon of Master/slave, a teaspoon of pain, mixed a dash of diapers and a hint of anything goes… whip well to a creamy consistency and enjoy!
I was first introduced to the dark world of sexuality thru BDSM. I had the honor of a past college professor to enlighten me. In a span of a short time I ended up writing my thesis on BDSM. During my research and writing time I met a lovely man who I served for many years. His hot button was pain! However, strapping your slave to a St. Catherine’s wheel and spinning her into hell is not something I would recommend for a first date activity with someone who would cry at the thought of anything harder an a rabbit fur flogger. After developing our vanilla relationship first, then adding the kink, we were able to fly together, successfully. Not long into our relationship, we started experimenting with different types of play genres. Some were utter failures and cold buttons, others were too sizzling and clothing optional.
To explore your sexuality is a gift most dismiss in their lifetime. For those who embrace it you are discovering and observing a dynamic and complex topic which provoke an a ray of questions: tolerance, support, the idea of community, education, etc. Even if your results turn to failure, the only thing you’ve lost is what you weren’t interested in. Look at what you’ve gained: sense of self, commonality amongst peers, a new hot button, fun times, memories…..
So if something catches your eye, focus. Enjoy mixing life’s roles into who you wish to become. Play safe!
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