Posted by Thomas C. on September 13, 2005 at 09:59 [69.157.33.132]
Daddy/daughter relationships
Hello All Daddies and lil Girls. I wanted to share some theories and observances about our unique lifestyle. Firstly, to me there are basically two aspects. One is the psychosexual fetish side (not my approach). The second is the nurturing/nurtured side (my approach). In both approaches I find the majority of daddy’s to be dominant in nature and the majority of lil Girls to have a submissive nature.
I believe society and social integration plays a great part in both aspects, because of our fast paced lives. I know families whose 8 year old’s already talk college and university. Simply, there is not enough time to grow up. And likewise, parents who have said their kids know more about what’s going on than they do. Thus, parenting is lost to kids who grow up too quickly.
On the one side you have nurturing daddies, who have not had the time to nurture, and thus it is still an instinct which needs to be played out. And lil Girls, who were not nurtured and mentored enough, thus they crave the attention.
Indeed this can be a natural sexual selection if your lil Girl is your girlfriend/wife, thus two nurturing and loving aspects in one experience. But somewhere along the line this has been turned into a sexual fetish, perhaps by daddy types who do not fully understand their own drives. Personally I have a great dislike for this lifestyle categorized as ‘porn’ or ‘fetish’. I believe that cheapens the lifestyle, and ‘for sure it keeps the girls away’. Girls don’t want to be pursued by men with teenaged hormones wanting just physical gratification.
When a woman want’s to regress, that is first and foremost her aim. If she simply wanted sex, I am sure she would be vocal about it. And thus the taboo on our lifestyle. As a lifestyle, if presented as such, without sexual overtures, the costuming and play would be no different than any one of us who dress and act within our social peer groups. I know this because twice I lived the lifestyle openly, and if anything, people found it fascinating.
But people still continue to hide this lifestyle, yet ‘sexual’ lifestyles of a more harsh nature such as SM/BD are readily publicized and accepted. I have many friends into that sort of thing and they don’t hide it.
So, whatever your approach, enjoy, have fun and respect your partner. We all have such a wide and interesting approach that we can learn daily from each other.
Thomas C.
Email: cpurrs@yahoo.com