Posted by DR on August 28, 2005 at 22:38 [67.83.76.91]
In Reply to: Wrong again, your Daddy sucks posted by Outsider on August 28, 2005 at 01:07
Outsider wrote:
"...he sounds like an asshole. Decent Daddys do not berate their babygirls for talking back. How can he care for you when he is so mean?"
"I will not stop being negative about people who treat other people in an abusive and manipulative manner, it is simply wrong."
That reads like BDSM intolerance to me. Such blanket statements as these above, are not only remarkably ignorant, but are also grossly incorrect. I know many very decent Daddies who berate their slaves, submissives and little girls, and who treat them in an abusive and manipulative manner, but who love these women as much as I've ever seen any Dom/Daddy/Master/Top love a woman. In fact, my slave and I are into objectification, depersonalization and humiliation, and sometimes she *really* gets off when I'm berating her.
In the BDSM world, people often "scene" publicly -- similarly to what babygirl and her Daddy Matt are doing here on this forum. Its extremely bad form to watch such a scene and then critique it or condemn the participants' kinks as Outsider did here.
We could all judge others' kinks harshly if we applied our own values, standards, ideas and definitions to their scenes. But we shouldn't. So long as all of the participants are adults and they are happy doing whatever it is they do, and their kinks don't interfere with the lifestyles of others, then its not our place to interfere.
I'm disheartened to read Outsider's comments, but I'm even more disheartened that only one person, Anais, came forward to condemn them.