Posted by Leigh on August 16, 2005 at 23:05 [69.110.14.62]
In Reply to: relations...Big brother, sitter, daddy or uncle? posted by nurturing on August 16, 2005 at 14:56
I tend to let the mood of the scene set the type of caretaker I have. While my boyfriend is some place between older brother and daddy, I try to think of him as more the daddy. That formed from a few years of abuse from an ex and that my real father never really had any time for me when I was growing up. I try not to force anything on my current boyfriend because he is not active in this lifestyle and I don't want to turn him off to being open to it. Besides I think slow and steady has proven to be the best way to help him fit in.