Posted by DR on July 10, 2005 at 00:53 [67.83.76.91]
In Reply to: Joining the fray... posted by A. on July 09, 2005 at 22:23
Austin, you've got your facts all wrong.
1. I don't berate. You may interpret my posts that way, but only you control that. I simply state the truth as I see it -- with a certain sarcasm I'll admit. Read Brian's comments to me and you'll see that he's given to me a lot worse than I've given him. Frankly, I've held my tongue.
2. I'm not at all burned out. I'm still *very* involved in the diaper scene and the BDSM scene.
3. Regarding SIDNY, I've not "taken the ball away" at all. SIDNY isn't going away, its in reconstruction. Think about it like a corporation with thousands of lazy employees that became too complacent, too risky, and too dependent on the work of a single person: the owner. I've simply fired everyone and will rehire only those people who I believe are willing to work for our shared group. The rehire process begins shortly. Sounds harsh, but you wouldn't be armchair quarterbacking if it were *your* company, *your* risk, *your* hard work. Walk a mile in my shoes Austin.
Let me be further clear. The vast majority of SIDNY "members" contributed absolutely nothing to our group. Frankly, they took their own ball away -- they fired themselves from the group.
Even clearer -- who said that SIDNY had to be the only ball in town? In the four years that I organized SIDNY, not one person organized a similar such group in the NYC area. I was approached by many to help start similar groups in Long Island, Westchester, New Jersey, Connecticut, Poughkeepsie, Albany -- and I helped them all. *None* of them ever got started. I guess they weren't as motivated to get their groups started when they knew SIDNY would be around.
Only now, after I've temporarily shut down the group for reorganization did some folks step up to the plate and organize a different NYC diaper group. Hey, it only took four years! I guess necessity is the mother of invention after all.
4. Responsibility -- little story -- I once left the Yahoo AB_DL messageboard in the same huff as Brian has here. I was posting over a month to a thread saying that adults should never interact with minors in the diaper community. Some knucklehead called me a Nazi -- one called me Osama Bin Russ -- another called me Hitler. That I'm Jewish and lost family in WWII really made those comments worse. Also, that I gave so much to the cause of free expression to the diaper community made calling me a fascist especially hurtful. I left the group, citing that folks were acting rudely.
But you know what, I was wrong. I left that group only because its what *I* wanted. No one forced me out. I could have stayed and continued posting. And that I was hurt by their comments was *my* responsibility. Instead, I could have laughed at their comments. That I felt hurt was *my* choice. I was wrong to point the finger at them for my departure. When I realized this a year later, I returned to the list with a fresh attitude.
And let's put things in perspective here -- it took Nazi and Hitler comments to bait me into leaving that group. But I've *never* said anything to Brian even close to that. As mentioned, he's given me a lot worse than I've given him. If anything, *I* should be leaving in a huff from his comments! LMAO!
5. Let's be exceedingly clear about this Austin, I *LOVE* the diaper desires community -- despite its disgusting flaws. I wouldn't still be contributing otherwise. But you and I both know these flaws won't go away by themselves: disrespect towards women, disrespect towards other kinks, harassment, public inappropriateness, spamming, underage content, adult-minor interactions, identity theft, copyright theft, "sorority" photos... shall I continue?
If you think about it, responsibility is the only tool we have to correct these flaws. I can't force anyone to confront his bad behaviors, but I can encourage him to take responsibility for his actions. That's not only a basic truism for Brian or for Daddies, but also for all souls.
A seminal thought about responsibility, Austin -- think about this one carefully. Tell me, why do you think that so many investors buy stocks at the price apex -- the highest annual price -- while so few buy when the price is near the 52-week low? I'll bet Anais knows why.
Think it over. Figure that out and you'll understand why so few diaper folk talk about responsibility, but why a choice few understand its overwhelming importance to WIITWD.