Posted by DR on June 22, 2005 at 21:32 [67.83.76.91]
In Reply to: Re: Maybe You Just Need A better approach. posted by tisha on June 22, 2005 at 13:56
"it just feels like you are pointing your finger at me…….. especially when you begin it with addressing it to me as if it were a personal letter, then number it out like I am in trouble and you need to make a clear outline of each of your points, only to sum it all up with how *I* ended my own post in the first place, as if I had absolutely no clue and was totally oblivious to anything remotely logical or sound."
Tisha, you really should learn to take responsibility for your own feelings. By your own admission, Mbob's post "feels like..." That the man wrote you a long, well-organized, frank response should have indicated to you his desire to help you -- not to "point his finger."
Your histrionics on this list are growing worse. Can I get a *sigh* from you please? Or how about a *huff?* Word to the wise -- if you're too sensitive to receive the responses, then don't post an inquiry.
A seminal word to you, the gals here, and also the men -- women are just as capable of irresponsibility and rudeness on this list as men are, and should not be given a free pass on such behavior simply because they represent a numerical minority here. You do a great disservice to women, to submissives, and to our community by defending women here for any reason other than agreement with their views. That men covet women in our community does not make women's actions inherently right or moral; they are flawed too.
Based on all of your writings here Tisha, which have often been outstanding, you would benefit by removing that chip from your shoulder, by lowering your defensive walls a few feet, and by listening to those who are responding to you with every intention of helping you along your journey. Indeed, you may not like the advice I'm lavishing upon you now, but you should know that often the best help others offer to us are the words we don't like to hear. You should also know that I wouldn't spend my keystrokes unless I thought your journey was sincere.