Posted by Brian on June 15, 2005 at 19:54 [205.188.116.130]
In Reply to: Re: I wish more of the old sisterhood would return posted by Leigh on June 09, 2005 at 23:33
Hi Leigh,
Here's the short version of my story. I am nearing 50, so I could ACTUALLY be your Daddy. My earliest sexual memories involve urine and wetting, but since I was unaware that any other human shared this fascination, I initially expressed these interests privately by pants and diaper wetting.
During my mid teens, I witnessed a young woman at a sporting event wet herself while standing in line for the bathroom. Aside from being highly stimulated by the image of her unrestrained flood, I immediately felt the desire to take her home, make her feel safe, and diaper her.
It did not happen this time, but...my emergence as a Daddy had begun. As soon as I was on my own, I began a 20-some year search for my own LG, meeting, dating and trying to persuade numerous women to wet themselves and allow me to diaper them. I struck out more often than not, but I still enjoyed some form of Daddy-LG interaction with dozens of sweet (and not-so-sweet) women.
Most of these liaisons were brief, lasting a night, a week, or a month, and none of these really satisfied my deepest fantasy - of establishing a strong, ongoing relationship with a LG whose own most indelible sexual memories involved wetting and diapers, and who largely defined herself as an adult LG, not a submissive "into" AB/LG behavior because it was Kink or just plain naughty.
I did meet one woman who was almost exactly the LG I had searched for, and we spent more than 3+ lovely and erotic years together. Unfortunately, it ended tragically (long story)
Later, I met another LG who, while very different than my first real LG lover, also fulfilled me deeply. This union lasted more than 7 years, although the final year was not easy (another long story). We drifted apart for an extended period, but we have recently reunited, and it is currently going well, with the exception that I am away from home too often to suit either of us.
If you have specific questions, do not hesitate to ask :-)
Nettie is very shy about contact, although we have met a few couples who were also Daddy-LG lovers, and she did enjoy having a playmate.
The only advice I can give is fairly general:
1. Be true to yourself - Know who you are and what you desire as a LG, and within your relationship. It can be tricky navigating with a BF who is not a completely enthusiastic Daddy, but you must express and live your desires to some reasonable degree.
2. Know the difference between your ideal scenario and the minimum that you require to feel some real fulfillment - whatever it might be - e.g. a night or a weekend per week in diapers with an attentive BF/Daddy. Strive to achieve this minimum.
3. Be aware that you may have to introduce some of "what he doesn't know won't hurt him" into the mix. For example, if I interpret this correctly, he is willing to treat you as a LG but not a babygirl, which you prefer. Many LGs love to wear diapers, and while the age-specific behavior is quite different, the externals, diapers, etc. can be identical. If he treats you as a LG, while accepting your use of diapers as necessary, you don't have to clarify to him how intensely you enjoy wetting them. In addition, unless he has researched your ADD condition, you can persuade him that incontinence is always going to be part of your life. That is not necessarily untrue.
4. Attempt to control the pace of evolution. If you believe that he truly cares for you and hopes to be with you for a long time, then the deeper and more sustained the love, the more likely it is that he will gradually accept more of who you are. Be patient as he truly accepts your use of diapers. Then try to have him change you, from time to time (when you are ill or unusually stressed). Next, see if he will knowingly go out with you diapered and wetting. If you progress to this point, perhaps you can at last hint that you sometimes derive pleasure from the process and that it might be fun to incorporate it into sexplay. Ultimately, you would hope to have him engage you as a Daddy, wholeheartedly attending to his babygirl. Don't rush any step, and be prepared that he might reach a limitation at an early stage.
*You can also incrementally alter your speech, your general dress, etc., in a gradual regression, so that the changes are barely noticeable. This might allow him to more easily accept a "younger" you.
5. Become attuned to his own specific sexual expression. Listen for any cues that he may give that he harbors his own unfulfilled desires - or simply ask - perhaps a quid pro quo arrangement might result, in which you each strive to provide satisfaction for the other in order to reap your own.
I empathize, Leigh, even in vanilla relationships compatibility is often a challenge to achieve, much less to sustain. Without having met via an ISO contact, it is difficult to gauge the extent your BF will embrace who you are. It does sound like you have a solid beginning. May you continue to make progress - keep me - and the board -posted.
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