Posted by DR on June 13, 2005 at 07:35 [67.83.76.91]
In Reply to: A shy girl... posted by tisha on June 11, 2005 at 07:23
Tisha,
You wrote:
"...all hope that someone reaches out that hand to grab hers before she slips beneath that waterline for the last time and she drowns in doubts."
You write as though a Daddy has to save you. That's fairy tale land. That's the fire department you're thinking of -- or the heart surgeon.
Others can mend our physical hearts, but no one but ourselves can make our spiritual hearts whole. Only you can do that for yourself. No one can "make" you happy. No other can make you feel anything. Only you can. So if you're not happy with yourself, then you won't be happy with anyone else either.
Let's remember Tisha -- kink message boards don't make people shy. People are shy because they are, and because they choose to remain so. *Nothing* can "make" a shy girl open up. Only she can make herself do so. No one can save her. Only she can. No Daddy can make her whole. Only she can.
And it is a matter of priorities. Is it *that* important to her that she find happiness in a DLG relationship? Is it as important as having a job? As important as keeping a roof over her head? As important as her survivial? Does she truly want it?
If so, then shyness will not continue to be an obstacle for her. No obstacle nor excuse will suffice. She'll do what's necessary to change that. She'll do what it takes to find her voice, her confidence, and the *right* Daddy for her.
Everything short of that, including shyness, is an excuse to herself. Those who want it, will have it -- those who do not, their only excuse is to themselves.