Posted by DR on June 04, 2005 at 21:18 [67.83.76.91]
In Reply to: Re: long term affairs posted by Brian on June 04, 2005 at 18:32
Brian,
You wrote...
"My own two significant relationships lasted 3 years and 7+ years, but I know of a current Daddy/LG love affair that has been sustained for more than a decade."
"Perhaps others on this board have surpassed this."
I'm sure some have. In fact, I'm sure many such couples don't associate in public DLG/diaper circles, but would be otherwise counted for their long-standing relationships if they did.
Longevity can be a great thing, but its not for every couple, nor should it be the standard by which we judge all relationships. I'm not saying that you're definitely making judgements here (frankly, I'm unsure), but I notice you used the word "significant" to describe your longer relationships. Does that infer your shorter ones were "insignificant?" And you seem more interested with the longer relationships than the shorter ones. Is that a value judgement? Do tell.
I've observed that relationships between/among kinky folk often begin with white-hot kink, but hit the skids after the honeymoon period. Considering that kinky folk often bottle up their desires -- like aged champagne -- its not surprising that many such relationships would seem like a sprint rather than a marathon when those desires are uncorked.
My point here -- maybe its good that those relationships fizzle out. That is, maybe both parties were really looking for kink exploration, not loving intimacy. Maybe these folks need to let off that sexual steam from time to time, but don't want the challenges of a relationship.
Personally, I've found that the longer relationships delve more deeply into the DLG kink, but that's my own choice. Its all about priorities, isn't it? I'll conclude with one seminal thought -- I think I'm a much more complete Daddy thanks to my short-lived DLG/diaper experiences. My slave and I benefit every day from those experiences, so they are invaluable to me.