Posted by Mbob on May 30, 2005 at 00:13 [64.219.92.198]
Though not meant as a jab or literal critisim on the wonderful community which I am a part of, I must question some ethics that are involved. Though I will initially state that sexual kinks are kinks for a reason.
I recently had a wondeful talk with a intelligent, witty, adorable and completely lonely sub. She's in her late twenties and isn't so much into the Daddy/LG scene but has participated in several sessions with Ageplay as a basis. She brought to my attention the concept of Topping from the bottom. Which she describes as a sub, who wants to be a sub, but will only be a sub under her own rules.
Honestly what that equates to is a girl(or guy), who is willing to be a sub, only if said rules and actions are to her/his pre-determined araingement and nothing more.
Which I understand to a point, but on the same note that defeats the concepts of a Dom/Sub relationship. Perhaps I am wrong, perhaps my limited knowledge of Sub/Dom/Daddy/LG relationships hold completely in the Sub's hands.
Now, I'm not going to say I'm completely inexperienced, I have had two long relationships with two girls who initially weren't anything in the BDSM/Daddy/LG/Sub/Dom culture. Through careful actions and information, I turned them on to it and it was something they enjoyed if only for the aspects of removing themselves from almost all volentary actions they can achieve. Each girl had their own likes and dislikes of the games we played, and though they didn't hate them, I often tried to remove such dislikes from regular play.
It wasn't so much of the concept of topping from the bottom as it was catering a fetish/kink to make it more enjoyable.
Though the words she used were much more interesting as being something of a Submisive person controlling what happens, and only what they want to happen. Which to me defeats the purpose.
Am I crazy for thinking this, or is this mearly incoherant ramblings of an insomniac?