Posted by DR on May 26, 2005 at 21:45 [67.83.76.91]
In Reply to: Re: PARASITIC AB exploiter available for taking yo posted by A. on May 26, 2005 at 20:27
Dear A,
You wrote:
"I'll respond with this: such sex workers only prolong the suffering of the lonely. The do so by allowing them instant gratification"
To summarize, you believe sex workers enable the bad habits of the lonely or suffering. If so, then the same can be said of the pornography industry, liquor, cigarettes, and even (those traditionally considered) non-sinful industries like television, music, film, books, etc. Some people lose themselves in books in the same way others get lost in bottle or in sex.
But I don't judge any of the above to be sinful or immoral whatsoever. Sex, like any activity, can be underused, used appropriately or abused; the one doing the activity decides for himself/herself how much is too little, enough or too much.
Which belies an important point: we are responsible for our own acts/omissions. Sex workers provide an equal service for both the healthy-minded and the mentally-ill. It is not their business to make that decision for their clients. Rather, the client must decide for himself whether paid-sex or paid-domination is right for him, and he alone is responsible to himself for that decision -- for good or ill. If that act furthers his loneliness or his heartaches, then he alone owns that choice.
Which is also true for WIITWD. Some diaper folk lose themselves in countless hours of picture trading and searching, but who is to say whether that decision is best for them? Yes, some diaper folk do escape from their hopes and wants behind a computer, but to point a judgemental finger at Diapergal or Wetset or ABkingdom would be deflecting responsibility from where it belongs. At the end of the day, only he can say for himself whether his decisions have been the right ones.
I sense that your frustrations come from a good place, dear A. Perhaps you've listened to one too many stories of loneliness? Perhaps you think these sexual services substitute for and preclude the formation of a stronger real-time diaper fetish community? Perhaps you've personally experienced these things?
Whatever your goal, remember that it cannot be accomplished when we deflect responsibility from ourselves. Recently, I quit smoking after almost 19 years. Not only am I the only one responsible for all of the damage I did during those years, but I'm also the only one responsible for the four months that I've been smoke-free. And I'm mighty proud of that.