Posted by Annie on April 07, 2005 at 14:20 [84.68.25.201]
In Reply to: Re: questions posted by L.E. on April 07, 2005 at 12:10
Thanks for your input!
In regards to A's reply (embarrassed) what is IMHO?
In response to both A and L.E:
In regards to Daddy wearing nappies - could be positive from the point of view that having done so he will have an understanding of what I like and want as a baby. On the other hand, not sure if I would find it a turn on to find Daddy in a nappy. Would perhaps find it difficult having done so to give him the respect he should have as an adult, or to feel safe in handing over control to someone who is potentially "childish" (smile)
Seriously though baby wants to feel safe, but also to have a Daddy she can respect and look up to, it may cause problems unless partner permenantly in Daddy role from now on with their ab days firmly in the past.
L.E
Please don't assume we're all bratty manipulative types desperately trying to wrap Daddy round our fingers, thats not where my head is anyway. But from time to time it helps to have your baby status reinforced, for one.
Also there's other stuff going on. I can only speak from my point of view, but I'm not looking to manipulate if such a scenario were to be played out.
For example. ok so you're my Daddy and being in nappies and being babied is lovely, but I get to thinking how I'd love to impress you and be cooed over etc. So how do I achieve it? Bingo! I know - I'll tell Daddy I'm ready to be potty trained like a big girl! I get to wear pull ups or trainer pants and daddy perhaps lets me stay up longer or do big girl things and I get lots of encouragement cos Daddys pleased with my progress. (with me so far?) Little girls love their Daddys and live for Daddy being proud of them and making a fuss of what a good girl they are.
Problem with this?
Only in so far as if I was really ready to relinquish my nappies I probably wouldn't be posting on this board right? (smile)
So much as I want all of the above its pretty much inevitable that I'll end up having an accident because
a: I'll miss my nappies and want them back.
b: Deep down Daddy will want and need to reinforce my baby status so he doesn't lose his baby.
result?
Both baby and Daddy are happy!
I prefer to be baby than be potty trained, but don't feel negative about it, I think from time to time it would make a nice change to wear pull ups instead of a nappy and be treated like a big(ger)girl! Don't assume that if a girl is roleplaying at the crawling stage (love bottles dummies reinsthe whole caboodle!) she's necessarily going to be easier to control or better behaved than an older 2-3-4 year old. I don't think thats necessarily true.
From where my heads at, If I had a Daddy who loved me, looked after and was happy to baby me, I'd be doing everything I could to make sure Daddy never stopped loving me. If the above accident thing during potty training happened, it would happen for the reasons stated and I'd be happy for Daddy to return me to baby status and put me back in nappies til I could persuade him I was ready to try again.
I wouldn't do it because I'm some bratty horrid monster trying to control him, quite the opposite.
Likewise the only reason I can think of to ever have a tantrum would be because of feeling insecure about either Daddys feelings for me or if he wasn't being a strict enough parent. Babies need rules and feel safe if Daddy DOESN'T give in all the time. If Daddy was forever jumping to my demands I'd feel hopelessly insecure (no adult in control) and the tantrum would be the direct result of a need for Daddy to take back control. ie tell off /punish/ spank/ lay down rules and guidelines for behaviour or whatever in the future.
I hope this doesn't sound like I'm trying to tell my granny how to suck eggs cos you're obviously more experienced when it comes to this subject and no doubt what I've said will most likely only apply to me and other girls may disagree completely?
A.
Very sorry, didn't mean to imply that a safe word would or should be used simply if the submissive or baby decided they were bored. That wasn't my intention, but I think it is a good idea to have a safe word, that way if i felt uncomfortable with what Daddy was asking or if he was making me feel really bad about myself (as opposed to gentle humiliation which I don't have a problem with after all - most people my age would be potty trained and most certainly would not allow anyone to put them in a nappy and treat them like a baby) then I would want to stop. Some people seem to think that only physical violence or other such extremes justify or warrant the use of a safe word. Sometimes the emotional scars left by idiots who are ignorant stupid and insensitive go just as deep and take longer to heal.
I'd like to thank you both for replying though and would be interested to hear any further thoughts.
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