Posted by A. on May 19, 2005 at 04:58 [12.210.221.132]
In Reply to: Re: Testing 123 *hehe* posted by tisha on May 18, 2005 at 21:03
Tisha,
First, please forgive my use of an expletive; I didn't predict how offensive it would be, and the topic of your post hit a nerve for me.
To clarify, I define "bratting" as any behavior intended to provoke a disciplinary response. I consider bratting topping from the bottom as it is an attempt to manipulate the behaviors of the dominant party in a relationship. I hope that I've made if more clear, here.
Some people welcome bratting (especially ageplayers). To step back a bit, I don't necessarily mind it (at least as long as it is something like the gum-wrapper-drop you described). My point remains, however, that this excercise in topping from the bottom would be a poor way to determine if a dominant will allow you to top from the bottom based on a required response of indulging the negative behavior through role-played rebuke or discipline. In my humble opinion, it would be more evidence of a top's refusal to allow you to do so by ignoring your bratting, perhaps in an ostentatious way in which the top makes it obvious that s/he is aware of what you're doing but refuses to play your game (and thus, to be topped from the bottom).
I do find it interesting that you feel comfortable with bratting as a prelude to what I feel might be described as more proper behavior (i.e. "Is it something I would continue to do throughout any type of possible relationship? no. "). Personally, using unacceptable behavior (however mild) to begin a relationship seems to me to be starting things off "on the wrong foot", so to speak. In my opinion, it sets the stage for future similar negative behavior on the basis that it establishes a context where the behavior is considered appropriate, and thus, makes such behavior by the bottom a known quantity. This, in my view, sets the stage for its future reprisal, because the behavior is both known and held to have an acceptable context.
I understand that my opinion may differ from your's (and likely others), but in the spirit of discussion (which I enjoy) I am offering it up.
all the best,
A.
who didn't mean to raise such a stink with a vulgar reference to cow-pies.
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