Posted by A. on March 25, 2005 at 15:06 [12.210.221.132]
In Reply to: Re: Finding the right daddy posted by Daddy Dave on March 24, 2005 at 07:24
I'm with you completely on the issue of a public first meeting. However, I find it horribly sexist to suggest that the Daddy solely (or in the greater part) incur the expense of the meeting in order to satisfy a woman's concerns about safety. Making such arguments perpetuates the traditional financial responsibilities placed on men by "traditional", chauvinist culture without affording them the same degree of authority "traditional" society allowed. It is simply unfair for a woman to expect a man to buy her dinner, hold doors for her, or incur the expense of travelling to meet her if she desires to behave in the paranoid mode of female stereotype. If she is concerned with the safety of the first meeting, and expects to be equal in the relationship, it is her responsibility to meet him half way in terms of distance, finances, and safety. If she is concerned with her safety, she should take a self-defense class or invest in something with which to protect herself.
We (as a culture, both male and female) spend far too much time in our society encouraging our daughters, sisters, mothers, and wives to be afraid of the world (and specifically the internet). This fear, which is an attempt at social control (i.e. preventing sexuality, be it consensual or non-consensual as a means of preventing pregancy without the consent of the people a woman is surrounded with), is one of the last great bastions of sexism in our culture. Truly, it is in the interest of all sexually progressive individuals (which I hope would include everyone on our board, as we self-identify as Daddies or LGs, two different "kinky roles") to get away from this toxic mode of thinking if we are to each have our best chances at pursuing the fulfilling relationships we all desire by making the event of meeting a new prospective partner not an event wrapped up in fear of psychopaths, but of the hope for friendship and love.
I've been through it too many times and spent too much money to suggest that some other Daddy go through the same (financially) unequal relationship.
I understand that many of use fetishize notions of traditional gender roles (I myself do to a considerable extent), but let us remember to indulge in consensual kink and not to backslide into chauvinism (be it male or female).
A.
'bit hot under the color
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