Posted by Daddy Dave on March 24, 2005 at 07:24 [24.196.235.117]
In Reply to: Re: Finding the right daddy posted by anonymous on March 24, 2005 at 03:32
I couldn't agree more with Saffy and L.E. You need to use common sense precautions and assume nothing at this point.
As a Daddy, I would not expect (nor want) a LG to meet me anywhere but a VERY public place for the first several meetings. I don't care how long you have talked online or on the phone - meeting in person takes it to a whole new level. This meeting will give you a lot more insight and information to process. Why would you deny yourself that opportunity? Shoot, speaking for myself, I need that same opportunity from the Daddy side. So this first meeting is babysteps (no pun intended)!
At the very least, the meeting should only be in public. Period. I don't care how far away he is coming from, expense, etc. If you are as far along in the relationship as you say that you are, then a Daddy should be willing to take the time and incur the expense at this point while looking toward the future. Yes, it would also be great to get references and/or have discussions with other little girls that know him. And I would have to say that a safe call is appropriate, as well. There is a little warning bell going off in your head - listen to it. Just my take on it.
P.S.- as far as real Mom's, they worry about EVERYTHING to extremes - there is a shift in their DNA when they give birth, lol. I wouldn't get too caught up in her fears. Sounds like you have a healthy perspective and will be cautions in the approriate manner. Take care!
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