Posted by ocelotusa on September 12, 2010 at 18:28 [76.106.198.56]
In Reply to: Guidance posted by Ann on September 07, 2010 at 12:04
Hi - I used to think like you. I created standards for myself that were impossible for me to keep, because, try as I might, I am only human. I think I've learned to settle for who I am, and I am not better or more imperfect than anyone else.
I have been a real daddy for many years now, and understand how confusing it can be for a girl to decide whether to enter into this lifestyle, and, if she decides to do so, to what extent, etc.
Because you seem highly intelligent, I think you'll take what I say to heart: Life is extremely difficult enough. There are very few real friends one has in life; only people who tolerate you to various extents. People only want to be with you when you are happy, and when you agree with them. But it's impossible to perfectly agree with any one person, let alone dozens!
So, enjoy as much pleasure as you can, because every one's lifespan is very finite. I stopped beating myself up over that, and am at the point that I enjoy whatever I can with whomever I can, and don't become as stressed out when my lifestyle doesn't mesh completely with hers, and try to compromise, for the pleasure of both.
Feel free to contact me if you like. I don't bite, and the only motive I have is helping you think things through. :)
Email: oelotusa@yahoo.com