Posted by OcelotUSA on August 14, 2010 at 11:45 [76.106.198.56]
In Reply to: So heartbroken posted by Matt on August 13, 2010 at 15:13
The same happened to me a few years ago. Twice! Suddenly, the girls (two different ones, maybe a year apart) suddenly closed the door on me. No reasons given. Even though our experiences were terrific.
I blame it on guilt from pleasure, and I believe one became very religious. I don't have to state that religion almost always preaches sexual pleasure as being evil.
Not that I give a pass to all daddies; we're not so perfect, either. But these days, I am disgusted that so many females have hurt so many men by a simple email; none have the humanity to at least pick up a phone and discuss.
For what it's worth, prior to my current marriage, I had been engaged to a lady (in a vanilla relationship; she knew of none of my fantasies). Things were supposedly fine...until one morning I woke up with an email similar to the one you described.
I told her to keep the diamond engagement ring, but she promised(and kept the promise) to repay $300 I had lent her to repair her car. That shows some integrity.
Perhaps, my friend, you have been spared a lot more misery by they having cut you off now, shallow and vicious as the cut-offs were.
But I guarantee you, that when one door closes, another opens. My first marriage ended in divorce (my fault). I thought I'd never find anyone else. I was 30 years old. But I did find someone a few years later, 11 years younger, and a perfectly wonderful, loving young lady. She died about 6 years ago from a terminal disease, and I though that since I was now in my fifties,that certainly, I would become one of those lonely men sitting on a park bench somewhere.
But amazingly, I found someone online - sight unseen yet - we spoke on the phone, met the next day at a nice bistro, and a week later she moved in. We married after about 2-3/4 years later.
I am now 60 years old... full blond hair... she is 39. I look and feel much younger. People think I'm 45.
A kind, loving, patient girl can keep you young and help you stay young. We work out together at the gym, can't stand being apart (she works outside of the home), and are totally and fully in love.
I tell you this not to brag at all, but to encourage you to believe that you haven't at all seen the last of good, decent ladies. One is waiting for you, and you will find her someday.
I believe that out of every 10 people, maybe 20% are good and decent. But they are indeed there, waiting to be discovered. I guarantee that while you don't have x-ray vision, someone is out there looking for someone kind and decent as you.
Email: ocelotusa@yahoo.com