Posted by Malisa on July 31, 2010 at 10:01 [220.255.7.182]
In Reply to: Re: Age Difference posted by No Name on July 28, 2010 at 12:39
Hiya No Name,
i really do get the things you have brought up and they all have extremely valid points .
yes i HAVE thought about what it may be like when he's 63 and i'm 40 and what it may be like and i can't honestly say, "We'll get a great and wonderfully happy couple." because life has the potential to change people in anyway. but he and i really believe in strong communication. and i believe that if we keep that as a habit, change will not be such an intrusive, shocking thing. but it would be something we would work through and try to adapt to.
The fetish ... may also change . i try not to believe in concrete things especially if it isn't tangible. but i think it won't just go away one day. if i ever do have kids,( we plan to adopt) maybe a part of it may calm down and the mothering side of me may take over it but i think that again. communication and adaption. i guess it all comes down to commitment, and though this relationship is very young and there are factors that may prove to be difficult to overcome, i am truly committed to my daddy and Boyfriend. and i trust that he is the same toward me.
also, i believe in balance. i've never wanted to be an LG 24/7 and though this part of me in undeniable and is an important factor to who i am. it isn't my identity. so even now. it is and never will be a top priority.
to an extent i truly do envy you being able to be so open with your relationship with your partner. because since this is my first relationship, i had such a desire to celebrate with my loved ones. but, it has been a tough hurdle to overcome. (i think asian countries are a little more conservative on this subject of age and race). so yeah i do envy you but at the same time, i feel extremely blessed to have met this man. it is a very very different dynamic in terms of relationship and life stages but i've learnt so much from him and him from me. so =)
hahah sorry for the long reply. you pointed out a lot of interesting factors that i have overlooked and i love responding to them ! hahah ! i wish alll the best with your love ! it is a great great gift!!
Thank you for your comment!!
Malisa
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