Posted by Glad to help on July 16, 2010 at 10:05 [69.115.231.187]
In Reply to: Safety and Consistency posted by Tilly on July 15, 2010 at 00:09
Adding to cuddlemonkey's great reply -- would your Daddy consider getting his sexual needs fulfilled outside of your relationship? Kinky people can't expect to fit all parts together like lock and key. We're complex people with complex fantasies, which often means we need complex relationships to satisfy them.
To those who argue "evaluating your relationship" based on kink compatibility, I say that's fine, *IF* you value kink and kink compatibility as the most important factor in a relationship. Many couples / triads do. So for them, when the kink ends, when the compatibility ends, so does the relationship. Again, fine if that's your value system.
But *most* people do not prioritize kinks in their relationship. My wife and I share many kinks, including Daddy / diaper slave girl -- but we are certainly not completely kink compatible. She and I each have fantasies that the other cannot provide. Yet we're together almost 10 years because we place a much higher value on our family, our friendship, our life together and our common goals -- than we do our kinks or kink compatibility.
My point is -- think outside of the box. Binary thinking (this or that) isn't the only decision set. If what you and your Daddy share in life means more to you than the kinks do, then I recommend finding a workaround. That doesn't mean you should let him run over your hard limits. Rather, you might want to consider creative options for your continued mutual and individual satisfaction.
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