Posted by cuddlemonkey on July 15, 2010 at 16:45 [72.227.96.126]
In Reply to: Safety and Consistency posted by Tilly on July 15, 2010 at 00:09
Many times in (fetish) relationships people compromise what they really want and settle for what they think they can get. Or they enter into a relationship unsure of what they want. Or what they want changes over time. Or they think they want one thing, but discover it isn't actually fulfilling them.
If he is pushing you past clearly stated boundaries, that is not ok. If he is advocating for a change in your dynamic, that is different.
He is likely also feeling confused and hurt if his emotional needs are not being met. If he is not 'getting what he wants,' that is important information for you to have in deciding whether to continue the relationship. It may be painful, but ultimately you are the one who must safeguard your own emotional well-being.
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