Posted by DaddyPaul on October 05, 2009 at 19:27 [211.30.209.87]
In Reply to: A problem many AB's have posted by Bianca on October 03, 2009 at 19:59
I don't really understand why codependency is such a bad thing, or maybe I just don't follow what you mean by it. What is wrong with two people needing each other? Isn't that a big part of all relationahips? If we didn't need each other for something, then why bother being in a relationship at all?
I get this advice about being "whole on my own" all the time, but I simply can't do it. I think such a thing is just an ideal, and for most people it's an impossibility.
I know from past experience that I am happiest when in a relationship where I need my LG and she needs me. Is that codependency? I really don't do the being by myself thing well at all.
I agree that the "perfect relationship" doesn't exist, but I would also ague that the "perfect aloneness" doesn't exist either!
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