Posted by A. on March 02, 2005 at 11:48 [12.210.221.132]
In Reply to: Re: Ok (and sorry) posted by Anais on March 02, 2005 at 06:00
Anais,
I'm glad it wasn't "just me", so to speak.
As to the control words you use with your Daddy, do you think about things in terms of yellow/caution and red/stop? If so, how do you feel a "caution" word works out in your relationship?
I ask in the context that I've considered implementing such things previously, but have had some bottoms that find anything other than an "oh God, time to break role, I'm freaking out" (absolute stop) to be a bit formal for their tastes. Personally, I'd prefer to negotiate a "slow down" that could be done without breaking role, but have yet to make a successful case for such.
all the best,