Posted by elle on December 28, 2008 at 11:11 [76.103.175.35]
In Reply to: Accidents posted by Asuka on December 28, 2008 at 10:27
I think your looking for "funishment" vs. punishment. Before your big meet sit down together and decide the boundaries on each.
Daddy and I have rules that I do not break, ever. They are rules that we developed to make our relationship stronger and my submission deeper. Breaking those rules garners punishment, such as meditation, running, extra chores.
When we're going to have funishment we decide ahead of time. An example would be me having an "accident" and getting a spanking and put into diapers. I love spanking, so for me it would never work as a real punishment but it's fun to pretend it's a punishment, and of course being put into diapers is fun too, so that wouldn't deter me either.
Maybe journal a bit on what you think is real punishment vs. funishment. It's different for each of us. Also, the wetting thing comes with time and comfort level. It was hard for me at first too, but eventually it became second nature.