Posted by Jim on July 09, 2008 at 18:42 [76.103.144.13]
Hi Asuka -
Let me give you the 411 on relationships that include spanking. My wife and I met through a spanking ad, basically. Our first date was very hot and heavy spanking - no sex. It was her fantasy fulfilled. Problem is, after a few years, the spanking got routine. Our personalities settled in. She decided she wasn't that "submissive", after all, and the normal dynamics of a relationship took over - power plays; manipulations; etc.
I'm no pushover, but you have to REALLY want to live that kind of lifestyle. TRULY want him to spank you - not just fantasy-world stuff. In the real world it's very difficult to allow your partner to "control" you. to tell you what to do. You'll rebel. He may take advantage of the situation - or, more likely, you'll be AFRAID he will. Which is what happenned to me/us. I never took advantage of the "power" she (barely) "gave me", because she was afraid I would - because she sees me as "controlling" - which, ironically, I'm not. But its easy to paint someone that way if you don't want to take responsibility for your own actions. But that's another story.
In the real world, you HAVE to role-play, because "real" is not "realistic". Not to be a buzz-kill here. True, it's fun and doable for a while, but it'll wear down to normalcy.
I still spank her, but its barely role-playing and never "for real". It's foreplay. It's as much of a bummer for me as it is for her - even though we have great orgasms. She wants something "real", but knows she can't have it. so, she 's settling for "temporary" thrills. She's put ads on different sites looking for a "dom" for "internet only" play. Unfortunately, she makes it sound like it could lead to more, and fails to mention she's married. She doesn't know I know.
I think this is where most spanking-started relationships end up. Unless you truly want to be a real submissive. That you can HANDLE that. Otherwise the role-playing won't be satisfying for more than a year or two and you'll want to move on.
Bew careful what you ask for. Good luck.
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