Posted by Paul on July 09, 2007 at 04:52 [58.172.177.86]
In Reply to: Ambivalent... posted by Outrider on July 08, 2007 at 11:23
I'm certainly no expert on any of this, and I would like to hear from some of the girls on this subject.
There is definitely some truth in what Daddy Master says, and I'm sure his approach does indeed work for some girls in some situations, and to the enjoyment of both.
I have an experience of my own. It has nothing to do with diapers or daddies or LGs, and happened a long time ago. I was living in a shared household, and one of my flat mates was having trouble staying away from drugs - mostly through mixing with the wrong people. One day I caught her in her bedroom, and her best friend was instructing her about shooting up. I was furious and yelled at both of them, but especially at the friend. I ordered her friend out of the house, and we stood at the front door with me lecturing her. Ten minutes later... we're having sex!!
This has been the only time in my life that something like that has ever happened. Normally I'm Mr Nice Guy, and it took something like that to get to me angry enough. I can clearly see though how it was a turn on for that particular girl, and so therefore it must logically be for others as well.
That may all sound great - but in that case I had to get truly angry, and I hardly want a relationship that is based around my getting angry. I admit I have a lot of difficultly role playing angry. If my LG wants to play "naughty" then I'm supposed act "angry", but it's hard when you don't really feel it, and don't want to feel it.
So you can see that I have a hard time with the whole dom/sub thing, and it's difficult to get it just right. It would be really interesting to meet Daddy Master in real life and see how he relates to other guys - like at his work place for example.
Some time ago there was a guy writing to a previous LG of mine with lots of Daddy-LG fantasies, in which he totally dominated her. She liked it a lot! I got annoyed about this so I called him on the phone and blasted him. I was expecting Mr Alpha Male plus, but after a minute or two I realized he was just like me! When I asked him about that, he admitted that the dominant male stuff was his "fantasy", and he wasn't even sure he could pull it off in real life!
We are all locked into this strange world where fantasy and reality are blurred, and if you're not careful you can lose sight of who you are, especially if you try to be the fantasy image of someone else! It's hard enough living up to your own fantasy image!
I clearly still have a lot to learn about the whole dom/sub (Daddy/LG) thing. I started my magazine because I had an interest in wetting and diapers, but translating that interest into a real world relationship has not been easy.
I guess the best advice to anyone is to always be true to yourself and be totally honest with your partner.