Posted by William on June 10, 2007 at 08:23 [72.128.4.154]
In Reply to: how you met posted by Jenna on June 09, 2007 at 19:41
Hi Jenna...
I agree with Outrider - the truth is the best way to go. Vagueness however, is a good way to avoid an awkward conversation. "We met online" is a good start, and if someone really wants to know more you can be a bit more specific. You can usually give at least a few details without "spilling the beans." Also, I've told friends that it's something I prefer to keep private or only share with certain people, and they've always respected that request.
Another good explanation is just that you met at an online community or bulletin board, "like MySpace," you might say. It starts off with reading each other's posts, then emailing, then calling, then eventually meeting... pretty standard procedure for meeting people online these days. That's usually a good enough explanation, I think – especially if you’re talking with older folks who often don’t know the difference between MySpace, Facebook or any other social networking site.
Family can be a little trickier, I think. They might want more details, and since they’re family members who care about your safety and well-being I think that's fair. You might just start off by letting them know that this guy you've been talking to knows that you sleep with a nightlight or occasionally suck your thumb (or whatever other habits you might have that your family is familiar with - my family knows I sleep with a teddy bear pretty much every night), and that he's understanding and doesn't think you're strange for it.
Personally though, I feel like the best course of events is for family to meet the significant other before any big disclosure happens. I mean, if I were going to meet the family of a nice young lady, I'd want them to have the chance to meet me as a regular person (and hopefully a nice guy!) before they knew about the whole Daddy/LG side of things. I think it would be hard enough to overcome the suspicion of "creepy internet stalker guy" when meeting someone's family without having to explain why I packed a couple of bedtime stories to read.
If you're really serious about a relationship, then you need to ask yourself, "is this person I've met online someone I would be happy to for my family to know?" If not, then maybe you're letting the desire for an often hard to come by Daddy/LG relationship get in the way of your better judgment. If he or she is someone you'd love to introduce to your friends and family, then great! Hopefully you've found someone you can be happy with while nurturing your little side.
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