Posted by JamieBoy on September 08, 2004 at 21:39 [24.73.43.160]
In Reply to: Partner reaction Re. fetish posted by John UK ab on September 08, 2004 at 02:08
John,
I first told my girlfriend (now my wife of 15+ years) of my diaper fetish months after we had first made love. At that point, I knew that we were getting very serious, and I knew it could be a deal-breaker. I summoned up the courage, and one night, I told her and showed her my (then measly) stash of plastic pants. She was curious, and I'm sure she thought it was no big deal. It did become a very big deal over the years, though, as it became more of a part of our relationship. We had tons of ups and downs, many diaper related, and many not. It's just one of those things that seems to come up when you don't want it to in an argument - you need to learn how to defuse that fast. Of course, I and my love/need for diapers evolved over the years, too, and that led to many new awakenings about how deep this really runs in my life. Some things she just couldn't handle right away, and some things she never really has gotten a grip on (the real "baby" stuff...). While I would say "I'm content" with where we're at, that would be a lie. I will always have a need for her to understand this the way I do, and that will probably just never happen. Diapers became a part of my life when I was born through no fault of my own. They again became a part of my life at about 4-5 yrs of age and have remained in my head most every single day of my life in one way or another (45 + 4-5 years). It was far more difficult for me to deal with it initially than it could ever be for a spouse/gf, but then that's the rub. They can leave/divorce and not have to ever deal with it again. It's with me for life - of that, I am certain. Anyway, each person on this planet is made up of different life experiences and some people are able to handle "extraordinary issues" with ease, and others are not. You have to decide whether your gf is one of those that has courage and strength enough to handle this without worrying that you are one day gonna revert to a completely helpless baby for the rest of your life and leave her to just change messy diapers or whether she'll be smart enough to realize that this is just a slightly different bend or reality. Good luck in your quest to find out which personality type she is and good luck in your diapered life.
BTW, I did tell a therapist many years ago about my diaper fetish - she seemed not to care about it, as though it didn't have a bearing on why I was seeking therapy. It didn't... I had other issues at that particular time with women in general that I was trying to cope with. She helped me through that... she never brought up the diaper issue again, though I would have loved to bounce it off her to get some clarity on it at that time.
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