Posted by Emissary on January 16, 2004 at 08:50 [24.126.50.245]
In Reply to: Answer posted by Sweet Panty Girl on January 15, 2004 at 13:34
Hi Skitty!
> Hi Emissary and others,
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> Well its a pretty hard question to answer....
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> I understand the sentiment of finding a partner who not just does it to please you but is actually into it. I've been with guys who've played just because they know I like it and it turns me on. But its not the same as when you're with someone and you know it's *really* turning them on.
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> I think we need to look past the 'but I want a *partner* whos *really* into it.' kinda bit.
No thanks. :-) I'm a romantic and not about to give up.
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> Obviously theres not enough girls to go around for all the guys in the fetish comminuty, and trust me when I say that some of the guys who are into this are really very *not* desirable to date.
I'm not convinced of that. I agree with Pantiespooper that there are lots of women who enjoy using their pants as a toilet. It's just that they do it secretly so they're hard to find.
> I dont know, in a perfect world everyone here would have a loving, extreemly attractive partner who is as into it as we are. But its *not* a perfect world. And I think that we either need to accept that, and accept that the person who's right for us will probably not be kinky, and that we just have to accept vanilla sex, yet the standard perfect partner for someone like us is someone who may play, even though they're not into it, and will accept us coming here for that kind of thing since they just cant fulfill all our needs like that.
Just give up? Settle? Get less than one wants? Why? If a woman wants a loving man (or a man wants a loving woman) who gets off on the same thing that gets her off, why tie oneself into a lifetime of frustration with a mismatch? Not me. Not anymore.
The women who like this deserve a man like me who will be turned on by her doing it -- not a man who barely tolerates it or, worse, has to be hidden from when one's doing it.
And a woman who "settles" for guys outside our community is frustrating both of us.
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> I know I certainly have a great imagination and even though I *know* the pics of skymouse's are of hired adult models who are more than likely just willing to do it and dont get off on it, I can manage to fantasise.
I know all about fantasy. After some years, one wants the reality. And I intend to find it.
> I dont know about other people but my hottest organ to stimulate is my BRAIN. I really love text porn, and get some through the google cache search of http://whiteshadow.pornopartners.com/
Been there, still there, want to live it!
> It's a sign up to this crappy site, cancell it and keep the sexkey membership to get in kind of deal. And a dear friend of mine found me the back way into the stories. Most of them are harder than I like but contain some dirty poo/ws stuff that does it for me.
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> I guess I just figure it's hard enoguh to find a partner anyway without putting stipulations that stringent onto the qualities needed.
Of course it's hard!!!! But doesn't that make it all the sweeter when you find it?
> When it comes to fetishes and finding a partner I'm very lucky and can meet the guys who call me, or from the net here, being a girl puts me highly in demand so its good. But My main requirement for a partner is open minded and at least mildly kinky.
You're selling yourself short. Hold out for what you really want. It's out there!
> I can get pretty much all the kink I want on here. And trust me when I say that its pretty hard to find a kinky bi girl who lives in the same COUNTRY, let alone is close enough to date.
Again, so it's hard -- so what? Keep looking until you find! Put yourself out there ... like I'm doing now.
> As with the men in drag comment, with kinky chats and stuff like that I dont trust anyone who cant send me a personalised digicam pic or who doesnt have a webcam. These days webcams are cheap enough that theres *no* reason not to have one. And it's not like I meet someone claiming they're a girl and demand a dirty webcam show. I just demand REAL proof the person *is* really female.
Screen first, send pictures when you know who you're sending them to.
> I feel sorry for this commuinity as any real women who flit past as drivebys *do* get frightened away by the demands for proof of real girlness. All I can say is to any girls lurking just get a webcam and proove yourself to a trusted regular who will vouch for you.
Good advice. But know that there are genuine, grown up, centered men -- some us us accomplished and worthwhile in our real lives -- who are part of this community, looking for the woman who will be the love of our lives .... and who just happens, also, to love having accidents in her pants!
> Anyway its really early and I'm rambling, so thats it for me. Hope everyone can follow the train of thought there!!
> xxx
> Skitty
And thanks for your input, too!
Emissary
Email: emissary@rock.com