Posted by Kali on November 10, 2005 at 20:09 [64.254.210.204]
In Reply to: split personalities so to speak.... posted by anon on November 08, 2005 at 15:16
I understand exactly what you're talking about and find myself in the same kind of position. There is a side of my personality that just wants to be babied and taken care of and is oh-so-very vulnerable, but another side of my personality that is tough as nails and almost at odds with the vulnerable little girl side. I think it's perfectly normal. Most people have a stronger side and a weaker side to their personality, but in many it's not as pronounced as it might be in you and I and other little girls like us. I think that the further "extreme" one or the other side goes, the more extreme the OTHER side will go to keep the balance.
Statistically speaking, it's been found that many controlling/domineering personalities and people in high stress jobs which require great strength and control (over themselves and/or others) tend to gravitate towards playing the submissive role in sexual encounters more often than the dominant role and many do end up as ABs. Things usually end up in a yin/yang kind of way like that ;)
I also find that I am quite afraid of relationships in general, but I'm unsure whether that's more due to my stronger side not wanting to be vulnerable or my babyish side being frightened by new things/people. Or maybe that's where my strong side and my babyish side overlap? It's interesting... I'm still trying to get my head around it. :)
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