Posted by DR on October 15, 2005 at 00:34 [67.83.76.91]
In Reply to: I need help!!! posted by babyindistress on October 14, 2005 at 19:27
Hi there,
Well, my obvious question is, do you want to choose? That is, *MUST* you choose? I know many kinky people who enjoy dating several people simultaneously -- or who enjoy polyamory. My point there is simply to ask if *choosing* among these Daddies is what you really want right now.
Apart from that, my advice has nothing to do with diapers, BDSM or kink at all. You see, I don't know these men, and I don't know you, so it would be improper for me to suggest you choose one over the others based on my own assumptions -- or my own preferences.
Rather, if a LTR is what you seek, then whomever you choose, I recommend he be a man who *TREATS YOU WELL* -- first and foremost. I can't think of anything more important in a relationship. I know that's probably not the answer you're looking for, but its all that I can offer.
Regarding "hurting others" let me suggest that you get used to the hurt that goes along with breakups, but that you also put that hurt in its proper context: it isn't your responsibility. When a couple parts, the individuals can react to that breakup in many different ways -- from optimism to hurt. The individual, but no other, is responsible for his/her feelings during that breakup.
Which isn't to say that one should be an asshole during a breakup by aiming to inflict hurt -- but rather to say that you only control *YOUR DECISIONS* but not others' emotions or responses. As such, your responsibility to yourself is to make the best possible decision *FOR YOU.* Others' hurt feelings or reactions should not have an impact on your decisions. They are responsible for those.
Finally, I suggest that you make your decisions on your own time table -- as it best suits you. Although you didn't say so specifically, the tone of your post suggests that you're pressuring yourself to make a quick decision. But if these three Daddies are all good guys, then maybe its worth it to you -- and to them -- to deliberate over that decision for a while until the answer reveals itself to you.
May you reach a decision that best suits all concerned.